EIGHT GREAT TIPS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE

God intended for married couples to be happy.  He created woman to be a helpmate for man.  Many couples today encounter obstacles to happiness in their relationship.  Some of these obstacles are easily resolved.  Others fester, become chronic, and can destroy a relationship.

While some marital conflicts require counseling to be resolved, others can be remedied or prevented through proven techniques.  I will present eight personally acquired and tested techniques that keep a marriage relationship healthy.

Tip #1  Show an interest in spouse’s activities                                                                   

Your spouse has developmental needs outside the marriage.  Allow him or her to participate in healthy interests outside the marriage.  You don’t want to smother the one you love.  You want to encourage personal growth.  Take an active interest in your spouse’s activities.  Ask open-ended questions.  You’ll be communicating your love for your spouse.

Tip #2  In relationship — act and speak out of love

When occasions arise for potential conflict, hold back pride and try to react with love.  Don’t let self dominate, demanding to have your way.  Put your spouses needs ahead of you wants.

Overlook the habits of your spouse that inconvenience you.  Voice your annoyance to your spouse.  You may want to propose a creative solution.  Always remember, your spouse is never going to be perfect, not even to please you.

Tip #3  Build spouse up, never criticize 

The one you married thinks the world of you.  When you criticize, part of their world starts crashing down.  Your spouse needs love and acceptance from you.  Compliments or kind suggestions for improvement are more palatable. Encouragement helps maintain your spouse’s self worth and readiness to cope with the world.

Tip #4  Own your feelings, don’t blame spouse for them

During an argument, report your feelings, but don’t blame your spouse for making you feel that way.  Own your feelings.  They originated with you.

Be resolved to communicate your distress with the goal of problem solving the issue at hand.  Being vindictive by placing the blame on your spouse is not productive.

Tip #5  Don’t assume things

You are not a mind reader.  You cannot assume your spouse did or said something for a particular reason.  Ask instead of assuming.  The reason he or she spoke or acted was probably innocuous and had nothing to do with hurting you.  If your spouse isn’t readily available, put the issue on hold and get on with your life.

Tip #6  Be slow to anger

Expressing unrestrained anger is destructive to a marriage relationship.  Find a way to deal with your anger, to diffuse it.  Do something to take your mind off the situation — something physical or something you enjoy.  Later, return with a tempered attitude.  Express your feelings calmly and directly.

Perhaps you can propose a solution to the problem within your relationship.  Remain calm so that your spouse will likely not feel threatened or retaliate with anger.  You want to create an environment conducive to problem solving.

Tip #7  Talk over issues, considering options

Married couples will develop issues that need to be resolved.  While discussing an issue with your spouse, remain calm.  Stay in touch with the love you have for your spouse, even though it may be diminished by the issue.

Be resolute in seeking solutions.  Try to be creative in considering options agreeable to both of you.

Seek help from a marriage counselor if you can’t resolve the issues yourselves.

Tip #8  Make a date with spouse once a week

The honeymoon’s over.  You’ve lost that excitement within your marriage.  You have less time to spend with your spouse.  Try this.  Make a date with your spouse once a week.  Take turns figuring out something to do.

Do something fresh, something you don’t usually do.  Even an hour or two spent together doing the unconventional can jump start or maintain your relationship.  The key here is to concentrate on doing something your spouse would love to do, and particularly with you.

In conclusion, God established marriage in the Garden of Eden and intends for happy, long lasting unions.  I hope this post will help you experience a happy marriage with longevity.

Please feel free to comment, especially on any techniques you’ve found which contribute to a happy marriage.

 

 

HOW TO LIVE ABUNDANTLY

God wants you to live a rich life.  His grace is so abundant that even if you are going through a difficult time, you can still receive precious gifts from Him.

I will show you how to receive these gifts in order to make your life easier.  I will give you the steps.

     1.  Thirst after Him

God gave each of us a longing for something outside of ourselves which nothing else can satisfy.  Some may not even be aware of Christ’s ability to satisfy on a deep level.  They are totally engrossed in and satisfied with worldly things.

However, when God calls to you offering grace, come to Him.  You may be a lost soul who needs Jesus or perhaps you are a Christian in name only.  Once you drink of His living water you will never need to thirst again.

As Jesus told the Samaritan woman at the well,  “whoever drinks of the water I shall give him will never thirst.  But water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life”  (John 4:14).

     2.  Come, buy what is priceless and costs you nothing

Continue to accept God’s offers of mercy and grace.  This makes for an abundant life.  And accept what you cannot give to yourself.  You are a sinner — we all are.  You cannot save yourself.  Christ died for you on the Cross of Calvary because He wants to redeem you.  “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom 6:23).

He offers you this gift of life freely.  Believe in Christ’s saving sacrifice.  It will bring peace of mind while you’re sojourning on this earth.

     3.  Come just as you are

Jesus always mingled with sinners.  He came to save sinners.  God will accept you just as you are.  He offers forgiveness of sins to those who ask.  Also, He will work with you to iron out your bad habits.  You don’t need to be perfect.  Come just as you are.

Accept Him as your Savior.  Ask Him to be Lord of your life.  Review the Ten Commandments found the Bible in the book of Exodus 20:1-17.  In prayer, let Him show you your sins.  Confess them and ponder on the grievous nature of them.  Repent of these sins, intending not to do them again.

He has promised to forgive you.  “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

     4.  Develop a personal relationship with Him

God desires a personal relationship with you.  He wants to get to know you.  He wants to lead you to truth and to an abundant life.

Fix your mind on the One who created you.  You are a wondrous creation.  God has special plans for you.  He wants you to share your life with Him.  Let your disappointments help drive you to Him.  Spend some time with Him in prayer each day.

     5.  Read your Bible daily

A wealth of truth is found in the Bible.  If you base your decisions on divine counsel found in the Bible, God will surely bless you.

The entire Bible testifies of Jesus.  Getting to know Him and learning His ways will be enriching.

“His (God’s) truth shall be your shield and buckler” (Psalm 91:4).  God’s truth helps you navigate life, helping to protect you from the snares of the evil one, Satan.  Partnering with God will defect many arrows.

God will help you endure the tough times by preserving the joy you’ve developed in your inner core.  You will have been strengthened by prayer, thanksgiving, and getting to know God through relationship and by pouring through His Word, the Bible.

     6.  Obey God

The business of Christians is to obey and follow Jesus Christ.  God’s very character is reflected in the Ten Commandments.  His law is unchanging, just as God’s character never changes.

Obeying the law habitually is born out of love for God.  “He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me” (John 14: 21).

Jesus promised the gift of joy to those keeping His commandments.  “If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love.  These things I spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full” (John 15:10,11).

     7.  Follow Him

God offers the gift of peace to all His followers.  The apostle Paul taught the Philippians in these words:  “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Phil 4:6,7).

To follow God, you need to make His priorities your priorities.  These priorities are spelled out in the Bible.  One of these is serving others, i.e., ministering to their needs.

Many people are unaware of their spiritual needs.  After you’ve tended to some of their basis physical and emotional needs, e.g., serving a hot, nutritious meal to a group of homeless people and socializing with them, people are more receptive to your offering to minister to them spiritually.

A follower of Jesus will share his or her testimony of what Jesus has done for them with those needing Jesus Christ in their lives.

Spreading the Everlasting Gospel to those in need of a Savior is essential as well as spiritually rewarding.

In conclusion, you endear yourself to God when you obey Him.  He delights in showering mercy upon you.

Being a follower of Jesus enables you to naturally think of others first and to find joy in serving others.

A truly abundant life on earth is found only in conjuction with providing others with the hope of eternal salvation.  One can accomplish this by testifying of Christ’s saving power found in the Bible.

Knowing Christ comes in part by reading His Word and by having a personal relationship with Him.  We need both of these.

Once you come to the living waters Jesus Christ offers, you will never thirst again.  God will enable you to find peace of mind, joy in all circumstances, and the hope of salvation found in Jesus Christ.

Scripture quotations are from the NKJV

 

 

 

THANKING GOD ALONG THE WAY

We call on God with thanksgiving in our hearts

For He has loved us throughout our lives

Even when we’ve rebelled against Him

He’s provided

Making the rain fall

Giving a harvest

Providing abundant life

 

In times of drought and catastrophic flames

Flood, wind, and destruction

He calls us to Himself

To acknowledge Him as the Source of all

Sustainer of life

Our Creator

 

God admonishes our sinfulness

Calling us to repentance

For we know not the hour of our death

Our God desires us

To have eternal life with Him

He would bond with us

If we would give our allegiance to Him

Vow obedience

To all Ten Commandments

As they were given by Him on Mt. Sinai

As a sign of our love for Him

In the act of obedience

We thank Him for the rich life

He has endowed us with

 

 

 

NEW LIFE WITH CHRIST

After trying to perfect myself

Through my own power

I’d become disconnected from Jesus

My Lord and Savior

I’m in ruins

I cannot heal myself

I hurt and bleed from the war

I’d put myself through

Facing Satan

With only my human defenses

Crushed on rocks below

 

My guilt became a burden

Until I came face to face

With Jesus

On Him I laid my burden

He bid us:

“Come to Me all you who

labor and are heavy laden,

and I will give you rest.

Take my yoke upon you

and learn from Me, for I am

gentle and lowly in heart, and

You will find rest for your souls,

for My yoke is easy and My

burden is light.”  (Matt. 11:28-30 NKJV)

 

Aim to rededicate ourselves to Jesus

Continuing to do the work

He has given us

Praying daily to God

To keep the tether tight

Between ourselves and Jesus Christ

Letting Him keep us safe

Heal us with His balm

For there is no other

Great Physician

Able to heal humanity

 

 

 

 

GLOWING

Our lives reflect a prayer
Filled with the Holy Spirit
Consecrated to You, O Lord
Reaching out to fill others vessels
With a love originating
Only from Your Essence

Glowing as a lamp
During sacred vigil
Each moment, holding You
In our hearts
No foreign thought intruding
Set only on doing Your will
Our claim to good works
Not owned by us
But attributed to the Holy Spirit
Residing within
Bound to us by Your love
Cementing us to each other
The Body of Christ

Heart with heart
Hand in hand
Being of one mind
That of Christ
Lives sanctified by Your grace
No longer sinful in Your eyes
When our lives have been changed
Choosing to honor your Law
After being baptized
Into Jesus’ death and resurrection

After we trumpet Your Gospel
To the entire world
We will remain on the Last Day
Standing firmly before You
Those still embracing sin
Having been destroyed
By the brightness of Your Coming

Sin having been swept away
We stand hand in hand
With one we converted to Your Ways
Our prayer answered
Our life’s work fulfilled

FULFILLMENT OF GOD’S PROMISE

You are beautiful
For your triumph over death
Your heart has clung
To our Lord and Creator

You’ve run the race
With the end in mind
Reunion with the holy
Ransomed by His sacrifice
A fulfillment of His promise

You will see Him face to face
Kneel and worship
With song and praise
Rising from your lips
In acknowledgement
Of your fervent loyalty

Isn’t this what you want
A deep response to your Creator’s
Beckoning love song
Woven through the hearts of all
As a tapestry made more beautiful
By the Second Coming of
Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ

RESURRECTION DAY MESSAGE

Happy Resurrection Day! Jesus died and rose again for everyone. Don’t sit on the message. Go tell others what Jesus has done for you in your life.  Ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words to say. Visit a friend and give him or her your testimony.  Keep this in mind every day.

GIVING TIME TO OUR GOD

Upon arising
Before the hustle and bustle
Demands our attention
As first light shines
Upon delicate branches
After the morning star disappears
Spring flowers reach East
For light given by God
The Bible awaits us
And on our lips
Words of thanksgiving
To the Lord
Gently pierce morning silence
As we meditate on
Our Morning Star, Jesus
Our Savior and Friend
Who speaks to us
Through the Bible, His Word
Casting our fears aside
And in making this connection
Try giving God prayers of thanksgiving
As each day unfolds
With a spiritual sparkle

CHRISTIAN COUNSEL

Practice being good to yourself
You may need self-nurturing
In a personal crisis
Learn strength
By abiding in Jesus
He will never let you down
As all humans do at times

In this world
Of chaos and competition
Listen for Jesus’ voice
He will uplift you
Lay your burdens on Him
He will give you lasting peace
Found nowhere else

Make the Bible your
Daily food for thought
Find within it Divine counsel
As Paul offers to the Philippians
Echoing down through the ages:

“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true,
whatever things are noble, whatever things are
just, whatever things are pure, whatever things
are lovely, whatever things are of good report,
if there is any virtue and if there is anything
praiseworthy—meditate on these things”
(Phil 4:8). NKJV

THE SAVIOR FOR ALL IS BORN

God loves us without reserve
He sent His only Son
Jesus, enthroned from time eternal
Consented to come to earth
On a rescue mission for fallen mankind
Conceived by the Holy Spirit
Born of Mary, a virgin
Betrothed to Joseph from the Royal line
Of David

This fully human/fully divine infant
Cherished as their Son, Emmanuel
Trained by Mary in the Scriptures
Taught a trade, carpentry
By His Father, Joseph
Grew to maturity
And was baptized by John the Baptist
Beginning the mission given Him
Jesus fully reflected God’s character and love
In that He was One with the Father

Teaching the truth
Preaching of the Kingdom of God
Healing with compassion
Raising the dead to life
Forgiving sins
Showing us the Way
To eternal life with Him

Ultimately He laid down His life for us
Satisfying God’s wrath for sin
A sacrifice for us all
And rising again
Defeating Satan, sin, and death

As we celebrate Christmas
Come worship the infant Babe and Savior

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